If the TV show “Girlfriends” created and produced by Mara Brock Akil taught us anything, it was that us women could seriously benefit from a group of good girlfriends.
Whether you related most with Joan Clayton (serially single, established career, and mother figure of the group); Tony Childs (serial dater, always seeking wealth and comfort, childhood issues); Mya Wilks (wife, mother, and street smart woman) & lastly Lyn (free spirit refusing to grow up, but there for you when you need it)…
Or maybe you saw yourself in all of them, one thing was for certain.
They represented (in all their triumphs and strife) the magic girlfriends can make together.
The beauty of kinship when it comes to a good group of girlfriends.
Girlfriends that tell you the truth when you don’t want to hear it, but need to.
Girlfriends that support your dreams and cheer for you in all areas of your life.
Girlfriends that hold your hand and let you cry when the world seems against you.
Girlfriends that remind you that you are top 2 and never the 2.
Hold on, I feel like I need to run that back because if your girlfriends don’t make you feel like the previous statement… well sweetheart, you need some new ones.
Girlfriends that remind you that you are top 2 and never the 2.
Girlfriends who know your trauma, but never use it against you — they also don’t allow you to use it as an excuse for bad behavior.
Girlfriends who love you unconditionally and will continue to love you through good men, bad men, children, careers, and everything you will face on this beautifully chaotic ride called life.
Girlfriends.
We all need them. We should all have them. Hell we need to continue to appreciate our good girlfriends because they are the ones that will see us through all life’s challenges.
I mean listen. Men will come and go, but your girlfriends? The really good ones?
They’ll be with you forever.
Ever since the return of “Girlfriends”, one of the most popular African American led cast of women at that time — I’ve been reflecting on the importance of good girlfriends.
& I think we all should.
Whether you found your different group of girlfriends at various moments in your life (depending on the phase you were/are in), cherish them.
Be there for them as they are for you.
Love them through their pain and allow them to love you through your own. In the same breath be honest about where you may fall short as they do the same with you. Cheer them on and support them in all ways, always.
With the ultimate goal of continuing to build a strong connection and kinship with women who will likely be in your life forever.
You feel me?
As I sign off on this post, I pray that you hold on to the reminder that your girlfriends are your people, your tribe.
You’d do best to remember that on your tough days.
You’d also do best to remember that when life throws a few unexpected but rewarding curveballs your way.
After all, who else will cheer you on as hard, outside of your family (& God)?
Those damn girlfriends of yours.
With Love,
Thelms
p.s. thank you to all my real life girlfriends. The ones I met in middle school when I first moved and accepted me like no other. To the one that used to braid my hair in Spanish class and listen as I raved on and on about absolutely nothing. To the one I met in 11th grade math class/ accounting. To the one I went on a double date with and walked into the men’s bathroom. We laughed for daaaays about this. To the ones I laugh with all day everyday. To the one that’s like my older sister and I fondly call poopie. To the ones I met in nursing school that I’ll never love less. To the ones I’ve newly met along the way. To all my OG babes. Hell, to all of you. ALL OF MY BABES. Each and every one of you know who you are and have been there for me through all the different paths in my life. I thank you, I love you, & I appreciate you. Thank you for being my girlfriends. X
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