I was raised on values, one of them being the importance of the company you keep,
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Alone time is growth time.
To be honest, if someone told me years and years ago that I’d be sharing the importance of alone time on my blog, I’d burst into a fit of hysterics. I’d grown up uncomfortable with the idea of being alone. So much so, to me solitude signaled loneliness, lack of friends, and just being considered “different” or “weird”. It was a space where facing myself seemed like the wrong thing to do because drowning out my thoughts in the company of others seemed so much easier.
I’m not exactly sure when my perspective changed, but it did and boy am I thankful for it.
I guess I just grew tf up and finally came to terms with the notion that alone time is growth time. When you reach your 20’s you feel this overwhelming need to reform. Even if you don’t know what needs to be reformed, you crave the process of reformation. You just wake up one day and want a makeover, both internally and externally. Deciding that you would rather go through the ugliness that process may bring because no good growth results in coming out unscathed to some degree. The process is meant to burn in a way that makes change, hell growth lasting. This is possible when your willingness to be introspective trumps your discomfort with being alone.
Introspection = alone time, which results in growth time.
As I’ve continued to grow in age, I’m also growing in understanding because I’m realizing the above sentiments now more than ever. Alone time doesn’t have to be this dark place that everyone has manufactured it to be. It doesn’t even have to be a place or space that is hard to sit in. Alone time should be seen as a time to look into yourself and examine the things that make you… you. Some of those things may be positive attributes that push you towards being the best version of yourself. While a small few may be blocking you from reaching your greatest potential.
In my experience, recognizing both the good and the bad can only be done through self-reflection.
However, I refuse to minimize how challenging solitude can be initially. Especially if you’re someone who has previously found comfort in the hustle and bustle of the lives around you.
It will be hard at first adjusting to how deafening the silence can be.
You will struggle at first to understand what your inner thoughts are trying to tell you.
Trying to hide from yourself at first will seem easier than facing the possibility of growth.
But damn will it feel great when you come out the other side.
To your alone time being the greatest form of growth you’ll ever be privy to,
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I do my best writing at 3am.
When the roads are quiet and all I hear is the slight rumbling of a fan who’s time above me may be coming to an end. It’s worn in the best way, like the sheets on my bed after a wild night, tossing and turning trying to get comfortable. Waking up to the glow from the small lamp in the corner of my room, keeping me apprised of what’s going on during the silence of the night. That silence is when all my thoughts come to a head and I think of every damn thing.
The man who burned me, the one who came after that I prayed would take his place.
The bad taste wanting that to happen so bad left in my mouth.. The fear of the day ahead and the stress of the day before. The book that is so good I have to take pauses in reading to write this note in my phone to tell you all — I do my best writing at 3am.
In case you were wondering, it’s after 3am and I’m writing you. Not because I’m sad, not even because I’m stressed. But because my thoughts were coming to a head and I had to get them out. At this time I’m able to think. I’m able to map out my desires, my shortcomings, my fears, my passions; everything that makes me, me. Knowing that, it gives me the push to pray for the things I want and imagine the things I’ll have one day. So, I thought I’d end with letting you know that all of this is the very reason I do my best writing at 3am. If you’re up too and your mind is running as wild as mine, we should stay up and write together sometime.
Thelms
You ever watch a movie that just stays with you?! In a way that impacts your life forever? It’s like no matter the time or place you may be in life, that movie always has a way of staying relevant. For me that movie is called “Pay It Forward” and it’s the basis behind today’s Sunday Chat.
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Have you ever considered how much power our words hold? For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been told that there is power in speaking things into existence. In recent years, those words have never held a truer and yet personal meaning.
