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WHY IT’S SO HARD FOR MOST WOMEN TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE

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As much as the times call for women empowerment and taking charge, there is a significant deficit when it comes to applying such sentiments to dating and women making the first move. Whether, it’s the fear of rejection. Or it’s the traditional mindset you were raised with. Most women prefer NOT to make the first move. In today’s post, I’m sharing my thoughts on why it’s so hard for most women to make the first move, advice on putting yourself out there and just doing it + my personal experiences.

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OPEN LETTER TO MEAN GIRLS AROUND THE WORLD

mean girls

Mean girls listen up.

You’re mean.

Not mean in the sense that you have resting bitch face, until you’re approached and your charm is turned on. Or even the mean like the person who’s apprehensive of others before someone begins speaking to them.

No, you’re just mean and this open letter is for you. Continue Reading

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WHY CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM ISN’T FOR THE FAINT & WEARY

constructive criticism

Some people just can’t take it.

Constructive criticism that is. I’m not sure if it’s because the very things pointed out by someone that loves you are things you’ve always thought about yourself. Or maybe it’s the notion that someone pointed out something that needs to be changed before you got a chance to start working on it internally. That is of course, so others could notice the change externally. Hell, it might even be that you were under the impression you were doing a wonderful job of hiding those character flaws.

In any event, it’s why I believe constructive criticism isn’t for the faint and weary. Continue Reading

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CHOOSE MYSELF

choose myself

I should choose myself sometimes.

I don’t mean in the way you choose girls night over staying in. Or ramen over takeout. I mean like really choosing yourself in a way that makes a significant impact in your life. Putting your needs above everybody else’s. Continue Reading