Since the day I was born, my parents have always drummed in my head the importance of first impressions. I guess there was always this unspoken rule that the way you meet someone is how they’ll remember you. I’d always believed that to be true, until something changed my mind recently. Which in turn made me realize, why first impressions aren’t as crucial as they used to be.
So babes, keep reading for Why First Impressions Aren’t As Crucial As The Used To Be + details on this look.
The other day, a good girlfriend and I were having a chat about guys. She was giving me the lowdown on why I should stay away from a particular group of them because of what she’d heard. Y’all know the typical girl chat about good for nothing guys and their potentially messy situations:
“My friend’s sister’s cousin used to date him and when you first meet him, he’s so sweet and will talk to you about his goals…”
“He told me that his friend’s brother is no good because when he met him all he did was…”
“Her best friend said that he was a straight player after meeting him after the game wrapped around…”
After listening to countless statements like these, a light bulb went off in my head.
There was a common denominator. Something I hadn’t really taken the time to notice, until then.
I was being told about other people’s first impressions of someone instead of having the chance to formulate my own. Whether I liked it or not, when and if I ever did meet any of those guys; I would come into the meeting with preconceived notions — no matter how good of a first impression they made.
That’s when I came to the conclusion that first impressions aren’t as crucial as they used to be.
Now that doesn’t mean that if a man came to our first dinner date looking crazy I’d give a pass — chucking it up to dinner dates not being that crucial.
No not at all.
I’m just coming from the perspective where first impressions are not as crucial anymore because they have become so clouded by everyone & everything.
These days our world is so centered around things like Instagram, Snapchat, and Youtube; you can pretty much find enough information to make your own first impression of that person without ever meeting them.
Unfortunate depending on which position you hold, but true.
It’s crazy to think how we all (don’t even think about pretending you don’t do it), dig for potential dirt on the guy we’ve heard about before actually meeting them face to face. Some may call it wild, us babes that partake in this might beg to differ, and instead refer to it as us doing our due diligence.
AND you know what?! I’m not even going to categorize it as just a girl thing because I know you guys are doing the very same thing.
In addition to that, when it comes to first impressions; these days they rarely ever dictate who that person truly is. Some people are just not good at them and it takes till the 5th or 6th impression to truly get a gauge on who that person really is.
Needless to say, first impressions aren’t everything.
What do you guys think? Am I on to something or have I totally lost it, let’s chat about it in the comments below.
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Also, just to keep you babes updated on everything making its way to the blog in the next few weeks — Friday’s post will be the next installment in the “Nurse Thelms Says Series” so stay tuned for that.
Till then babes,
Thelms xx
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