BOUNDARIES YOUR MAN’S EX WOMAN SHOULD RESPECT

I can’t believe I have to write a post about this, about boundaries. But y’all we are in an era where the exes are just not getting it and because of that the demise of relationships are happening everywhere. I can’t even begin to explain to you all how many times I have seen an ex step out of her lane. Thinking that it’s appropriate to do certain things or behave a certain way when communicating with her former man, who is now your (my) man. If it’s not a text message saying “wyd” past 7pm, it’s a “Good morning” text before the sun rises. Neither of them being okay to send to a man who is with someone else. Don’t they get it? Their former man is taken. He is with someone else now and y’all are happy. Thriving in a way that doesn’t welcome distraction, disrespect, or other people. Exes included.

So without further ado, lets jump straight into things shall we? Today’s post is for the boundaries your man’s ex woman should respect. Hell needs to respect if we’re getting literal. Now it goes without saying that today’s post is for all the ex’s around the world who can’t seem to stay in their lane. Who can’t respect This one’s for you obviously because I’m triggered.

But, this post is also for the women who need to remember that you are his woman. You are his lane. The one that he is with. So it goes without saying that you deserve every bit of respect that comes along with that.

For starters,

It’s not okay for your man’s ex to be texting him at all hours of the day. There’s no such thing as a friendly text between exes. If your man and the ex share kids, different story. However, if not — that sort of communication is unnecessary and boundary crossing. It isn’t that ex’s business to know what your man is doing after 5pm. That’s outside of work hours so why is that their business? It sure as hell isn’t an ex’s business to send out a “good morning” text either. In today’s world, good morning can quickly become “I’m naked, come over” real quick.

& that’s just real tea sis, so sip carefully.

Secondly. Your man’s ex should not be commenting under photos of him. He definitely shouldn’t be responding to them either, but that’s another blog post for another day LOL. She’s his ex for a reason. Her feeling comfortable enough to comment under his pictures is distasteful and unnecessary. For the ex who is reading today’s post as well. You’re crossing the line girl, so cut it out.

Third. It’s not okay for your man’s ex to not understand the concept of personal space. The moment the ex and your man ended things something happened immediately. She may have not realized it, but you and your man should have. An invisible 12 ft or greater figurative restraining order went into affect. So it goes without saying that the ex needs to remain at a distance. She does not need to be in close proximity to your man at any time. It’s not appropriate and it crosses the line in so many ways. Just like my previous thoughts spoke on texts turning racy rather quickly. Much of the same is applicable in this situation. Close proximity to say hello, can quickly become reaching in for a hug and feeling up on your man’s back. All of which should not be happening on your watch sis.

My final thought is directly to the exes:

Have some couth about you boo. If you are no longer with him, recognize that and accept it. Respect boundaries. Stop trying to reach out and initiate communication that you know you wouldn’t like if the tables were turned. The golden rule you learned as a child really does apply in all situations. Stop and ask yourself a few questions that might make your interactions with your ex as minimal as they should be. Would I want my man’s ex talking to my man like this? How would I feel if my man’s ex text him “what are you doing” at 10 o’clock at night? 

If the answer was no, stop what you’re doing and go find your own man to worry about. Please.

If the answer was yes, look up the nearest therapist and go talk because you have some serious issues.

For my taken women, you deserve every bit of respect. Remember that when an ex is trying to cross a few boundaries with your man,

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