So you go out for drinks with the girls and BAM. A guy comes out of left field who’s been apparently watching you the whole night. He finally gets up the nerve to strike up conversation. He’s doing the usual spiel guys do when they’re trying to get you talking. With the ultimate goal being to score your number. You give it to him because you’re just as interested.
Then a few days go by and something’s different. Or even after a few weeks, you notice a change.
A few tell tale signs begin to make you realize that you may be more into him than he’s into you.
If this has been your predicament shortly after meeting a guy, you’re not alone babes.
It’s happened to me.
It was definitely a hard pill to swallow, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t learn a valuable lesson because of it. After all, personal experience has always been a better teacher than any self-help book could ever be.
I guess, I’ve just always been of the belief that a guy should be more into you than you are into him. Why? Well, as women we’re a lot more emotional, so if we’re into you… we’re all in. But guys, not so much. So if the guy is more into you than you are… well that’s what makes the world go round.
Anyway.
In the spirit of putting you babes on game (because I just love y’all that much) — I’m sharing 4 sure Signs that You’re More into Him Than He Is Into You.
So keep reading to get into all of the tea I’m spilling babes.
That way if this turns out to be the case for you, skedaddling out of this into something more worthwhile will be that much easier.
Here goes nothing.
YOU’RE MORE EAGER TO PLAN A HANGOUT THAN HE IS
Shortly after meeting you, after working so hard to get your number nonetheless — he should be just as eager to plan a hang out. In my opinion gone are the days where we sit on FaceTime or the phone for hours with no intent to meet up again… like during the day. I’m sorry, but no one should aspire to be any guy’s FT buddy and so forth. Isn’t the goal after meeting a guy to progress in some facet? That surely can’t be done if all y’all ever do is text and talk on the phone. Also, can we keep it super real for a second or two. If a guy wants to see you after meeting you the night before (or a few days prior), nothing will stop him from making it happen. Nothing. Unless, he’s just not that interested.
YOU ARE ALWAYS THE ONE TO TEXT OR CALL FIRST
Once you meet a guy and he works damn hard to get your number, he should continue to be the initiator up until y’all meet up and figure out what’s next. You should not be the one constantly texting him first or calling first. He started the move making, so he needs to finish it. After all, a guy’s going to do what a guy wants to do.
HE WAITS SEVERAL HOURS TO DAYS BEFORE GETTING BACK TO YOU
This is just plain and simple him saying, or yelling rather, “I’M NOT INTERESTED.” I have never been one to believe that a guy who was practically all over you the night before, is all of a sudden SO BUSY he can’t respond to a text for days?! No freaking way babes. He’s either: a) not interested, b)has a gf he plans on cheating on with you, or c) has someone else who’s snagging his attention. Or just something else. Idc idc, if a guy wants to talk to you… he will. & for me let’s be real. If they’re starting off being spacey when it comes to communication in the beginning — lord only knows what the future holds. Nothing good, I can tell you that.
HE HAS NO INTEREST IN REALLY GETTING TO KNOW YOU
This should be a no brainer. If he’s not attempting to lean into the basics of you… He isn’t interested. I mean think about it. When you like someone you’re so excited to dig. You’re so excited to found out everything you can as soon as you can. There’s no gender difference on those sentiments y’all. That’s everybody. If they aren’t trying to do — there’s a problem. Leave him alone sis.
Any guy worth your time will make the time you have with them worthwhile. Honestly, they will.
If any of the guys you’ve met recently, fits one of these signs or more… Leave him alone. Stop trying to figure him out. Stop giving chance after chance for him to “do better” or “make it right”. It’s no fault of your own that he wasn’t interested. Sometimes that’s just the way things pans out. After all, just because it doesn’t work out with this one doesn’t mean that it won’t work out with the next one. Because babe, there’s too many people in this world (7.5 billion, last time I checked) for you to be hung up on one who didn’t want you… this time.
To stepping up to the plate and trusting that your person is out there, one more time and always one more time,
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